What This Man Gave His Girlfriend to Ease Her “Crippling” Anxiety and Depression

[Image] My girlfriend suffers from, at times, crippling depression and anxiety. I saw this idea somewhere online and decided to make her something like it.

Loving someone who suffers from anxiety or depression is almost as difficult as being the one battling mental illness. You can be left feeling helpless trying to ease their invisible pain. One incredibly thoughtful man used his girlfriend’s struggle as inspiration for a heartwarming gift.

Reddit user bovadeez shared a snapshot of a jar he filled with popsicle sticks for his partner. Each stick was painted either orange, yellow, pink, or white, and depending on the color, he wrote quotes, reminders, things to help her relax, or room for her to write a happy memory. “My girlfriend suffers from, at times, crippling depression and anxiety. I saw this idea somewhere online and decided to make her something like it,” he wrote on Imgur.

He explained that he downloaded a photo of the project to his phone after he saw it online and finally decided to make it for her. “I’m almost 30 and have the penmanship of a 7-year-[old]. . . I can assure you my hands are covered in magic marker and fine-tipped sharpie,” he commented on Reddit. “I considered doing print out labels but I really wanted this to have a touch of personality to it.”

For those interested in making the project for their own significant others, the man explained that the purpose of this is for when his girlfriend gets overwhelmed and starts feeling like she’s losing control. “For the yellow reminders, I said things that were positive and were reminders. So for example, I said things like, ‘You’re beautiful,’ ‘I love you,’ ‘Don’t be afraid to ask for help,'” he wrote. “The quotes were taken from some of my favorite authors that were based in inspiration and positive words. The relaxation portions were things that I know she forgets to do like, ‘take a break,’ ‘listen to your favorite song,’ and so on.”

This man explained that sometimes it’s what words can’t say that gets through to his girlfriend, like this gesture, and that although living with someone who shuts down during attacks can be difficult, it’s the most rewarding relationship of his life. “She sometimes gets so caught in what she’s doing she becomes overwhelmed and doesn’t even realize it,” he wrote. “I’m hoping that this will help her – even a little is a lot . . . She’s very special to me. The least I can do is try to help.”

A Bride Named Ariel Got Married at an Aquarium – How Perfect Is That?!

Everything about this Summer wedding in Florida was fit for the Little Mermaid. A bride named Ariel and a groom named Thomas went with the under-the-sea theme all the way. The couple tied the knot at the Florida Aquarium, and Ariel looked like mermaid princess on her big day with a stunning train that flowed across the floor like a tail.

Tom’s eyes filled with tears as he saw her walking down the aisle of the coral reef room. After the two officially became husband and wife, they captured some amazing shots in the aquarium tunnels, featuring sea turtles swimming above. It was an unforgettable wedding to say the least.

How Can I Get Back Together With My Ex Girlfriend?

How Can I Get Back Together With My Ex Girlfriend?

Are you a guy who doesn’t want to accept that your ex girlfriend is gone forever?

Do you want to get back together with her and have a relationship that will stand the test of time this go around? Are you asking yourself “How can I get back together with my ex girlfriend without ruining the relationship again?” If this is you then you better have some sort of plan laid out in order to accomplish your desired outcome.

There are different steps to take when trying to get back together with your ex girlfriend. If you don’t have a plan laid out then you may do irrational things that end up pushing your ex girlfriend further away instead of bringing her back to you. Here are some tips to help you come up with a plan.

Don’t Pursue Her for the Wrong Reasons

It’s not impossible for you to get back your ex girlfriend, unless you did something that she just can’t forgive. But you need to ask yourself if you are pursuing her for the right reasons. Do you really want your ex girlfriend back or are you just lonely? Do you still love her or is she just someone who is comfortable for you to be with? Are you trying to win her back because you’re hurt that she dumped you or because you really want her back in your life? Be honest with these questions! It’s not fair to her or you if you get her back on false pretenses. The only reason you should want her back is because you love her.

Don’t Be Desperate

Desperation can cause you to do things that are completely uncharacteristic of you, and that will send her packing for good .These types of things include stalking, begging, crying, seeking revenge, and saying things that you don’t mean.Y ou have to control the way you feel and realize that desperation is not a good emotion to have when trying to win back your ex girlfriend. Once you clearly understand this, you’ll automatically become more aware of when you’re feeling desperate and the possible results that could come from that. You will have control over your thoughts and actions.

Start Moving On

This doesn’t mean that you have to move on from her completely. It just means that you don’t obsess about her, but instead start to work on yourself as a new person. You can  never enter the relationship as the same old guy, as that didn’t work out in the first go around. You need to work on yourself and eventually approach  her as a new and improved guy. You don’t have to tweak every area of your life, just the areas that caused issues in your relationship. If you are too controlling, needy, or deceptive then these are areas that you should work on so that you never have to worry about them affecting your relationship again.

Don’t Shut Her Out Completely

You may want to take some time away from her, but inform her that the time is just for you gathering your thoughts and moving on with your life. She will respect that desire and during that time she may start to miss you and look forward to when you start talking to her again. This can be the beginning of a brand new, healthier relationship. If she reaches out to you then don’t ignore her. Respond to her as briefly as you like, and then continue on your journey to becoming a better partner and realizing what you want out of a partner.

Eventually there will be a moment where the two of you can sit down and talk about the relationship and where it went wrong in a mature manner. And if you’ve worked on yourself to become a better person, she will see that you’re a different man and that a second chance may be worth her while! You’ll will be on the road to getting your ex girlfriend back in no time this way!

Alex Wise
Alex Wise is CEO of Loveawake.com free dating site and relationship coach. He works with single men and women who feel like life is passing them by and helps them to get clear on what they really want and finally make their dreams happen. He also loves sharing meaningful content that educates and inspires people to bring their dreams into reality. He has been covering online dating, relationships, breakups and marriage niche since 2008

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Things I Miss, In No Particular Order

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My old apartment in LA, especially towards the end. I found an old photo I took of the window right by my bed—the view made my room like the inside of a treehouse, it was so green and light. I think that’s the best bedroom I’ve ever had. The bathroom upstairs was pink, we had a hammock outside by the laundry room. Half of the outlets didn’t work and we had a cupboard that specifically housed a nest of spiders that we never properly dealt with and one roommate used a baseball bat to smash our smoke detector when it kept going off and I’ve never been more sad to leave a place.

January, and most of February, of 2017. I had a good New Year’s Eve, and sometimes wonder if that should’ve been immediately recognized as an omen.

She recently moved to the city herself and we haven’t lived near each other—within walking distance—in two or three years. I was so happy. It felt like falling back into who I was two or three years ago and I appreciate friends who don’t really change. I don’t really change. We didn’t really change—she bought me hot Cheetos early in the morning and let me sleep in her bed and then we watched the beginning of Frozen, which I’ve never watched in its entirety, as she tried to find some Advil. It made me miss the beginning of our friendship, if that makes sense.

The drive from my childhood home to my best friend’s childhood home. She lived in a different town, in a different state. It took me 22 minutes. I also just miss driving.

How shiny and new and exciting and horrible it was right when I first moved to New York.

I’d spend weekends working out of the coffee shop on 33rd and I’d peel off layers of sweaters and scarves and gloves and pile them on top of my coat on the chair across from me. It would always get dark early and I would end up drinking too much coffee and I spent a lot of time reading A Little Life, in an attempt to ignore the fact that a boy was ignoring me.

I used to be funnier, I think.

We started out with a very strong connection but now whenever I see her, I forget how we became friends in the first place. I thought she was going to save me at one point, I was that infatuated.

I admit that I’ve re-read our old conversations.

You know when you read something really good and you wish you could go back to when you didn’t know it existed so that you could experience reading it for the first time again and again and again?

There was a spot on the top floor of the library in the northern part of campus that my dad, when we were first walking around before I even really knew what I was doing, had showed me. Just to point out it existed. I spent four years sitting there and wouldn’t study anywhere else. I do not miss studying, but I do miss that weird and quiet connection I had made to that spot. I wonder who sits there now.

Portland, Oregon. If I were ordering this list, I feel like I would’ve put this one first or second.

He used to make me laugh so hard and was so brutally honest with me sometimes and was very blunt when he thought I was saying or doing something for extra special attention and I’m just so angry that that’s something I actually have to miss these days. TC mark

What The Solar Eclipse Means For You, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

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Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

The solar eclipse is going to make you crave change, and good news is, it’s going to come easily. You’re going to see change in a positive light, as a new beginning, and with your energy, you will make the most of it. Get ready, because new beginnings are coming your way.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

This solar eclipse is going to strike a chord with your sensitive side. Your sensitivity will be at an all time-high, and small changes with your family, friends, and loved ones will make you super emotional, but also super appreciative of the love that surrounds you. Stay grounded, and all of these little changes will fill your life with gratitude.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

The solar eclipse is going to give you closure. If you’ve had any loose ends that have really been stressing you out, they’re going to simmer down and you won’t feel so worried. Some things are meant to end, and you’re going to feel completely at ease when they do.

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

The solar eclipse is going to make you focus on yourself, which you don’t do often. As a caring and compassionate Cancer, you’re more concerned about others’ well-being than your own. This solar eclipse is going to finally put you first. This is the perfect time for indulgence and self-discovery.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

The solar eclipse is going to turn your world upside-down. A lot of change is headed your way, and it’s going to completely overwhelm you. Try to stay positive when things in your life make a detour. You might not like these changes initially, but if you have the right attitude, you’ll learn from them.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

The solar eclipse, unfortunately, is going to make your life messy. You’re going to feel a little less control over your life, and it’s going to bother you. Uncertainty is at an all time high during this eclipse, and it’s going to freak you out. Try to calm down before making any important decisions, and don’t jump to conclusions. Let go a little.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

The solar eclipse is going to make you feel invincible. Some really good things are about to spontaneously happen in basically every area of your life, and you’re going to roll with it and feel on top of the world. Work, love, family, it’s all about to get good, and you’re going to wish solar eclipses happened more often.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

The solar eclipse is going to give you a sudden epiphany. You’re going to discover something that makes you wonder why you’ve never realized it before, and it’s going to be a very good discovery. This epiphany is going to move you in the right direction and you’re going to feel like you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

The solar eclipse is going to make you feel like all of the hard work you’ve been doing has finally paid off. You’ve been putting a lot of energy into all aspects of life, career, relationships, even your home, and that energy is finally going to calm down. This solar eclipse is going to give you a break. Things won’t seem so exhausting, and the energy you’ve spent will feel worth it.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

The solar eclipse is going to give you motivation. This is a perfect time to push yourself and accomplish that goal you’ve been pushing to the side. You’ve tried numerous times before and haven’t been successful, but this solar eclipse is on your side, and wants you to try just one more time. And this time the results will be anything but disappointing.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

This solar eclipse is going to boost your creativity. It’s going to make you think outside of the box in all the right ways. If you have an idea, go with it because this solar eclipse is going to give you plenty of them.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

This solar eclipse is going to let your emotions get the best of you. You’re going to have the urge to emotionally vent to people, and while your emotions don’t typically scare you, they might scare others. This solar eclipse might make the people in your life run from your emotions. TC mark

I Can’t Listen To Certain Songs Without Thinking Of You

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There are certain songs that make me think of you because you played them after hooking your iPod into my car during a long drive. Or because they popped onto the radio while we swayed on the dance floor of a bar. Or because you played them on your guitar for me inside of your bedroom, just the two of us.

There are other songs you don’t even know about, songs that I used to listen to inside of my headphones at night, songs that made me think of you back when things were better. Back when I had hope that we were going to be together. Back when I believed that you wanted the same things as I did.

When I hear those songs now, with romantic lyrics that I thought related to us at the time but probably never actually rang true — at least not for you — I feel like an idiot. Even after all this time apart, it hurts to listen to them, to remember how high my expectations for us used to be before reality stomped me to the ground like a used cigarette.

And then there are songs that I hear on the radio, new songs, that also make me think of you. Songs by your favorite band that I know you must be listening to on repeat whenever you get behind the wheel of your car. Songs that you might have set as your ringtone, songs that you might listen to while you relax with whatever person took my place in your life.

There are theme songs to shows we used to watch together. Songs that played in the background of movies that we saw together. Songs that we heard at concerts together. Songs that we suffered through hearing at shops and grocery stores together.

So many songs make me think of you. Songs about heartbreak that remind me of the fresh pain I keep trying to push to the back of my mind. Songs about falling head over heels that remind me of how we used to be once before. Songs about flesh and jealousy and rejection and everything in between.

There are certain songs that I avoid at all costs, songs that I used to love, songs that I can no longer listen to without seeing your face in front of me. Without reaching for my phone and fighting the temptation to text you.

No matter what the message is behind the lyrics, I find a way to twist them to fit our situation. My brain always reverts to you. It keeps you on my mind, even when I wish that you would leave it, that you would give me the chance to move on from you once and for all.

The worst part is that I know I never cross your mind — not even when you hear the same songs that have been torturing me. To you, they’re just sounds. They might even remind you of someone else. Someone that means more to you than I ever have and ever will. TC mark

Ep. 92: You’re Not My Usual Type But You Could Be With Some Changes

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This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is inspired by a recent story that was shared with me that really illustrates how inappropriate behaviour can creep up on us and turn into big problems if we override ourselves.

In this episode:

  • I explain what code amber and code red issues are
  • I share the story of how a woman who’s only been dating a man for several weeks, is now going to the gym and attending Slimming World at his [sneaky] behest to look better (read: like the women he normally dates)
  • I explain why we must be discerning and have a level of stranger awareness, especially in the early stages of dating
  • I talk about why we override common sense, tension, discomfort about knowing that we need to take action and more, because we don’t want to put the person in question out, or we’re afraid of looking rude etc., or we don’t want to endanger the fantasy
  • I Talk about why we need to be aware of inappropriate and abusive behaviour and why the situation in the story has the hallmarks of something that’s going to be an abusive relationship
  • Explain why we have to be careful of people who are Choppers and why them cutting us down is about weak not strong behaviour
  • Explain why, whether they’re someone you’ve known for a wet week or for some time, it’s not cool for them to try to control what you do, how you look etc–it needs to be your choice and there shouldn’t be the manipulative BS where they suggest it while telling you not to do it for them while also pushing you to do it

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